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Set Good Boundaries by Zera Young – Editorial Review

Set Good Boundaries by Zera Young is a powerful book that teaches you how to set and maintain healthy boundaries

Zera Young’s book will teach you how to say No, how to set boundaries, how to stop sacrificing yourself for others, and how to create strong relationships which are free of codependency

Books Butterfly Editorial Review of Set Good Boundaries by Zera Young

Introduction & Context

“Set Good Boundaries: Where You Stop, and I Begin” is an empowering self-help book with well-thought-out ideas about setting boundaries for more fulfilling social interactions and a happier life

The author, Zera Young, defines boundaries and the factors limiting people’s ability to set boundaries. She then offers practical tips for anyone struggling in this area

The author calls for readers to heal their inner child, regain self-worth, cease being people pleasers and fearlessly express their interests, preferences, and needs

Main Review

Zera Young begins by helping readers understand the different types of boundaries, as only then can they know when these boundaries are violated

The author proceeds to differentiate healthy boundaries from unhealthy boundaries. She asserts that rigid boundaries stemming from the fear of losing independence and freedom can cause feelings of emptiness and loneliness, while loose boundaries may breed anger and resentment

Achieving the balance between “too rigid” and “too flexible” requires individuals to embrace vulnerability, heal childhood trauma, unearth self-worth, and be assertive

Lastly, Zera Young offers tips for sustaining boundaries, including restating the boundaries and enforcing the consequences for those who overstep

The Key Takeaways sections at the end of each chapter help readers remember and apply the main ideas to their lives

Strengths

The book’s strengths include the author’s ability to express ideas clearly, without unnecessary jargon and technicalities. Whether you are a novice in boundary-setting or a seasoned practitioner, you will obtain helpful insights and actionable advice from the book

In addition, the author presents real-life scenarios and relatable examples that readers can connect with. The reader has access to practical steps for establishing and enforcing boundaries and thoughtfully designed exercises to help embrace healthier habits

The exercises in the book serve as a valuable guide in self-exploration, enabling readers to recognize their emotional triggers and growth areas

Including Key Takeaways at the end of each chapter is essential as it reinforces the lessons learned. These Key Takeaways are one of the most valuable parts of the book as they help you to internalize what you have read

The author’s extensive research is evident from the well-crafted reference list, adding credibility to the advice shared throughout the book

Weaknesses

On the downside, some readers may find the book somewhat similar to other self-help books on the same subject. This is understandable since expert authors will likely share similar ideas for setting and maintaining boundaries

There is some repetition in the book but nothing too off-putting. Repetition is vital for emphasis, and some concepts may have overlapping meanings

Conclusion

Overall, Set Good Boundaries by Zera Young is well-written, and the author’s ideas and advice are clearly expressed in easy-to-understand language for all readers

Anyone seeking to understand boundaries and boundary-setting will find the book very insightful. While minor improvements could be made, this book’s transformative potential is undeniable

Overall Recommendation

We recommend Set Good Boundaries very strongly for Self Help and Non Fiction readers

The book is appropriate for both novice and expert readers as the author simplifies concepts to reach a broad range of readers. People new to boundary setting and those well-versed in setting boundaries will both find the book helpful

For anyone learning to set Good Boundaries – 100/100

For anyone who falls into co-dependent relationships and wants to instead build healthy relationships – 100/100

For Self Help readers – 90/100

For Non Fiction readers – 80/100

For anyone interested in People Skills – 90/100. Even for people not necessarily interested in learning how to set boundaries, Zera Young’s book is very helpful in understanding people and how relationships work

Overall, it is a gem of a book and very well written. It will help you if you give it the chance

Curator’s Thoughts

It’s very difficult to form healthy relationships with good boundaries

People who are people pleasers, or kind hearted, or giving by nature – Will often find other people violate their boundaries and take, take, take, and not reciprocate

Such people will often enter into co-dependent relationships and/or one-sided relationships (where one person is taking advantage of the other)

Set Good Boundaries gives you the understanding and the blueprint to set and maintain good healthy boundaries, and create powerful, strong relationships that are win-win for both parties in the relationship

Where to get Set Good Boundaries by Zera Young

Set Good Boundaries is available

1. At Amazon.com as a Paperback
2. At Amazon Kindle Store as a Kindle eBook

You can view the Amazon Author Page for Zera Young to see her other books (some such as ‘Reframe Negative Thinking’ are gems)